Mother-to-be refuses to allow MIL and SIL access to her newborn after they dictate her baby shower plans and semi-ruin the event: ‘I don’t want to feel anxious or tension after giving birth’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jan 31, 2025 6:00 PM EST

Becoming a mother is a beautiful thing, and the road to birth is equally as beautiful—but boy, can it be stressful and tense sometimes. Pregnancy hormones influence mood swings that are only exacerbated by stressful individuals. A woman's best bet during the late stages of her pregnancy is to keep her circle peaceful, small, and supportive as she prepares to help bring her child into the world. There's nothing more beautiful than that, yet others will try their best to make your pregnancy all about them. Yes, even family.

The mother-to-be in this story refuses to allow her mother-in-law and sister-in-law to see her newborn in the delivery room and perhaps, even after that, because of the way they behaved before, during, and after her baby shower. There's nothing more telling of a person's character than when they act like they have the reigns over your life events, and the mother-to-be's husband is paying the price for his family's blatant entitlement. Scroll to see how the story unfolds below.

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  • "AITA For Refusing to Let My MIL & SIL Visit Our Newborn"

    My husband (27M) and I (27F) are expecting our first baby in less than two weeks. Our son is a miracle baby as I was informed by 3 doctors I
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  • would be unable to carry a pregnancy. This pregnancy has been anything but easy on my body but I am grateful for our blessing. One thing.
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  • that has made this pregnancy even harder is my mother in law. The drama all started with the planning of our baby shower. My MIL is a very controlling person. This
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  • isn't an opinion, she says it herself. I knew she was going to have an issue with sharing the planning. of the shower with my family. I did not want any
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  • drama of it being at my families house as opposed to hers so my husband and I decided we would get a small venue to host instead.
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  • The drama started because MIL got upset she didn't get invitations for people she wanted to invite. My husband told her it was our party and we are keeping it intimate. of who we want there.
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  • She texted the both of us and stated she should be given some 'grace' for inviting some people. This then turned into a bigger fight when she was informed we did not
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  • invite his two brothers new girlfriends who we had not met. (Side note: his brothers are 18 and 19 and had only been with these new girlfriend a few weeks). She tried
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  • demanding we invite them which my husband told her no. The drama got worse when my MIL asked us to move our baby shower date
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  • because it was the same day as her works Christmas party. We told her we had already placed the deposit on the venue and ordered the invitations. She then told
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  • my husband that both parties were equally important to her and she will be only able to attend a short amount of time to ensure to makes it to her works Christmas party. I
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  • had never seen my husband so hurt. After this, my husband told her she was no longer going to be helping with the baby shower to which she responded "maybe it's best I just don't come."
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  • My husband ensured her she was still invited, but that the drama was too much. This really put tension in the room the day of our baby shower.
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  • The woman's mother-in-law clearly wants everything to go her way because there's a part of her who wants everything to be about her, even when it comes to her daughter-in-law's miracle pregnancy. In the past, what the MIL said probably went. But now, because she has no say over what actually happens (unless she guilts people into doing what she wants,) she is trying to ruin everything. The woman will not let this slide and refuses to let her miracle child grow up around such entitled individuals.

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  • His mom showed up SUPER late and only stayed for about an hour and left. My husband was continuously asked the rest of the party why his mom had left and it
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  • weighed on him the entire. party. On top of this my SIL was talking about me to members of my husband's family that even some of my family heard her. She was saying how I "didn't go up to
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  • them when they got there and didn't say hi." There were also apparent comments from both MIL and SIL about my weight as well. After all of this, my MIL did not invite us
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  • over for Thanksgiving or Christmas. Now that I am approaching my due date she has been reaching out to my husband asking "what did she do wrong for him to not want her in
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  • his life" My MIL and SIL really put a sour mood at our baby shower and holidays right after. I don't want to say it completely ruined our baby shower but my husband mentally was just not there. He was
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  • hurt the entire time and you could see it on his face. Since she has been reaching out again, I have made it clear that I don't want to feel anxious or tension after giving birth.
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  • My husband agrees but of course members from his family have opinions and think we should just move on. So AITA?
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